Lesley Dorfman, PhD
SOCIAL ANXIETY
Social anxiety stems from intense fear and distress when you need to be in a social situation (or anticipating being in a social situation). Often the concern is that you will be scrutinized, judged, humiliated, or judge yourself. These judgements can often be about performance, such as in public speaking, eating in front of others, fear of saying something 'stupid" or ' ill stumble over my words',or using a public restroom, being ''on a team' in a work/school situation. Often the physiological sensations such as blushing, rapid heartbeat, sweating, shaking, and can advance into panic. Many people see their world shrink as they avoid social situations such parties, meetings, having a conversation or ordering at a restaurant. Individuals often miss out on opportunities for advancements at work, school, and relationships due to avoidance. This goes beyond 'being shy' and can cause a profound impact on your life. It is not unusual to have depression as social anxiety can have a great impact on your life.
POSSIBLE REASONS FOR ONSET
- Negative experiences in younger years, often ridiculed, or rejected
- Having a more shy demeanor
- New social or work demands (public speaking, leading groups)
- Having a noticeable difference such as a stutter, or physiological difference
- Not having learned social skills
- Negative self talk
- Low self-esteem
RESOURCES
National Social Anxiety Center
The following sites can also be found on the National Social Anxiety Center website
HELPFUL SITES TO VISIT
Social Anxiety Life Themes and Schemas.
https://nationalsocialanxietycenter.com/2024/06/18/social-anxiety-life-themes-and-schemas/
Anxiety in Gen Z
https://nationalsocialanxietycenter.com/2024/08/19/social-anxiety-in-generation-z/
Social Anxiety Disorder: compliments Can Be Scary, Too!
Speaking In Public When Socially Anxious Inside
https://nationalsocialanxietycenter.com/2024/03/20/speaking-in-public-when-socially-anxious-inside/
BOOKS
The Shyness & Social Anxiety Workbook, Martin M. Anthony, Phd., Richard P. Swinson, M.D.